I got an email from my boss, asking me to come back on Monday. In the interest of a paycheck to take some of the load off of my wonderful Husband, I am.I'm not ready. But then, I don't think that I ever would be. I've pretty much been home for 3 1/2 months. I've gotten into a routine. I've never really wanted to be a working mom. I think it sucks that I have to be. But I do, and I know that.
Wes asked if it would have been easier on me (emotionally) to go back when Callie was six weeks old - back then, she was pretty much sleeping all day. I wouldn't have known that 10 am and 2 pm are Happy Times, I'd only know about the 6 am and 5 pm ones.
I don't know - is that how other working moms survive? If you don't know what you're missing, you don't miss it so much? Maybe their hearts are breaking just as much as mine is and they just hide it better. Maybe I'll adjust and Callie will be just fine.
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It was tough for me to go back to work at 3 months. My daughter was a bit fussy for the first 8 weeks and I was so very distraught once she settled down. I ended up visiting my job at about 10 weeks, two weeks before I was scheduled to return and I asked for another two weeks. Thankfully, they gave it to me, but it was no easier to leave her at that point.
I feel for you because I was totally in your spot! Keep your chin up!
anybody can stay home if they choose, it's just a matter of choosing between your priorities. Do you and your Wonderful Husband both have new cars? Your payments are probably $700-$1000! When I decided to sacrifice to stay home, we sold both our beloved cars and each paid cash for $3-4000 cars and have no car payments. These cars are reliable, but they're just not pretty.
Add your car payments, extra car insurances, wardrobe costs, eating lunch out, eating dinner out (just because you're too tired at the end of the day) and daycare, and how much are you really bringing home to the family finances?
This especially hit home with me when I realized how little I would actually see my precious baby--3 hours a night? and those 3 hours are spent, cleaning, cooking, paying bills, shopping, etc. Not exactly quality time!
I hope you're able to double check the math and consider giving up a few of your luxuries if you really want to stay home with your new baby.
It's just a matter of making a few choices of what's most important to you!
How nice of Anonymous to back up her striking analysis and knowledgeable assessment of your life with her name.
I'm sure that Anonymous #2 has our Best Interests at heart. In fact, a very dear friend and I had a very similar convo just yesterday.
I am a smart girl, though, and have done my research and number crunching - after all, how do you think I've earned myself right out of being able to stay home? ;)
This is #2 again.
I really did not mean to upset you, Mooremama. HONEST! I just get tired when I hear people say we can't afford to _______ because we just don't have the money when the truth is spending money is just a series of choices we make through our life. We may choose to pay for a new car, even if it means we don't have money to go to school. or we may choose to send our kids to private school and it means we don't have money to pay for vacations. or we may choose to give lots of gifts or charity to things that are important to us even if it means we don't have money to _____.
I have nothing against moms who work outside the home. I personally know lots of moms who NEED that adult interaction in order to stay sane around their kids.
I'm sorry if I offended you, that definitely was not my intent.
Hi again, Anonymous #2. I'm Jessica. (offering a cyber hand to shake.)
I'd be less likely to be offended if I knew your name.
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